1. Ask yourself WHY?
Do people say you are ugly? Does your partner say your fat? Do you self tell you these things? Does the media tell you?
2. Stop listening to what other people SAY!
Who cares what the neighbors say? Who cares what your "friend" say? See, they are not really that good of a friend being that mean to you. If your partner says mean things to you, you might be stuck in a relationship that is lacking of respect for one another. "but they are just trying be honest with me". I believe many wars are based on the wrong art communication. there is a difference between saying "i am concerned about your health if you keep eating these deep fried chickens" and "damn woman, your ass is so fat I need to move to another planet to get some space". Try explaining this to the people you care about. They will understand and change their way's if they really do care about you too.
3. Stop crying like a baby and start doing something!
Many people looooveeee to talk. Especially complain-talk. Stop wasting everyone's time! Seriously. It won't change anything about your situation if you just keep complaining and talking about it. Okey, I might forgive it, if I happen to meet you and you tell me about your worries in life. Once! If you keep coming up with the same stories, about how this happened and how this is not fair and how you wish this and that, oh please...! We all have better things to do with our times. You too!
4. Start loving yourself!
Forgive yourself. Love yourself for the person you are. The love that you have for someones character is so much deeper then the one you have for someones looks. Be good, honest and fair to yourself. But just as important, be good, honest and fair to others too. You want to feel happiness? Start within yourself. That is your foundation in your life, the emotion you feel towards yourself. If you ain't got love for yourself, sista and brotha, how can you have it for someone else?